Say You’re Sorry (2019-2023) is a series of participatory performances and installations about forgiveness. The five initial projects— Forgivability ScaleShadowboxing, Hard Feelings: A Show About Grudges, Truce, and Forgive Or Forget— led first to The Say You’re Sorry Workbook (2020) and then to the culminating work (2023).

The Forgivability Scale (2019-23) is a 32-foot-long quilt that depicts a double-sided arrow running between “Unforgivable” at one end and “Easily Atoned” at the other. Call Your Mom created a corresponding question for each new Say You’re Sorry performance or workshop to prompt participants to add their experiences to the scale.

(2020) is an interactive movement/sound piece about painful and cathartic processes of self-forgiveness. It took place at Centro NAVE in Santiago, Chile. The photos below are by Fernanda Ruiz.

Forgive Or Forget (2020) is an interactive sculpture and series of interviews in English and Spanish with people living in Cotacachi, Ecuador. Participants articulate the different ways they process and narrativize the wrongs of their governments, families, and communities.

Hard Feelings: A Show About Grudges (2019) is a short play that uses audience experiences to discuss the making, holding, sharing, and shedding of grudges. It premiered at The Tank in New York City.

Truce (2019) is a two-channel video installation about how individuals and groups move through conflict without coming to a resolution. It was shown at the Janet & Walter Sondheim Semifinalist Exhibition in Baltimore, MD.

Work: Say You’re Sorry (2023), SYS Process (2019-22), Too Day (2018-19), Household (2017), THIS CLOSE (2016), Call Your Mom (2014)

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